I find it likely that it will be to our detriment to dwell for long on any of this, since I have a hard time believing that the one doing all of this for the sake of hedonistic pleasure and little else will permit us much time to mourn our dead, or to handle our frustrations with the situation in any sort of meaningful way.

Perhaps he'll surprise me in that regard, but I don't have that much faith.

[So either you deal or you...don't, and if you don't that's just going to speed up the process inadvertently by making yourself a target. There are other concerns as well, personal things that he's not particularly interesting in voicing at the moment; he isn't interested in sorting through them, and as such they're better left behind where they belong.]